6 things I know about active letting go

Danielle LaPorte
2 min readJun 9, 2020

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Note: “Active letting go” is not to be mistaken for “passive letting go”, whereby life rips stuff out of your grip, or you paint yourself into a corner, or things get so heavy they stop you in your tracks and you have to ditch them just to carry on. Active letting go is a little more… proactive. It’s a practice. It’s awake. It’s somewhat delightful (except for the agony of it).

6 THINGS I KNOW ABOUT ACTIVE LETTING GO

  1. There’s always more to let go of. It’s endless, and it’s beautiful because it’s endless. Just surrender to the endlessness of it.
  2. Typically, letting can be painful — in varying degrees, from wince to crippling. Fact.
  3. Hard leads to soft. A stressful goodbye; kissing them that way for the last time because you need to grow in another direction; resigning; cutting ties… On the other side of letting go, a Gentle Power is waiting for you. And she’s proud and encouraging.
  4. Small steps are okay, but eventually you have to leap into full letting go.
  5. Acceptance is medicine. When you accept that pain is part of releasing, you speed up the healing process
  6. You’ll grow. Out of, say, 923 people I’ve talked to about letting go (of material and emotional things), 88% of them wished they’d done it sooner, and 97% of them have no regrets whatsoever. Only 3% are still confused.

I went through a period in my life that was a truly epic letting go, in a short amount of time. A business, a marriage, a home filled with things I chose with intention. A friendship that I couldn’t resuscitate. Bags of beautiful clothes, boxes of books. Ambitions. If I let go of anything/anyone else, I wasn’t going to have a sofa to sit on, and only two people would be left to come to my funeral. But I surrendered to the endlessness of it. And that resolution softened me. And then I moved into practices for forgiveness. That was the real growth.

Maybe it’s time to bless and release one or some relationships in your life. Romantic, familial, friendships. Maybe it ended long ago and you’ve been carrying resentment and pain. Perhaps you’re in the throes. You can do the work to bring yourself into balance and forgiveness — create a sacred container and… let it go. This is the deep work of liberation.

It would be my honour to guide you through this.

I have a RELATIONSHIP RELEASING Guided Reflection. You’ll receive visualization and reflection practices to create a sacred relationship container that can be blessed — all parties are honoured, and then offered up to be set free. This is for full letting go, by which we mean: forgiveness. That’s the complete clearance. It’s the only way to be free and more whole. Not always easy. Always, ALWAYS worth it.

For Higher Love,

Danielle

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Danielle LaPorte
Danielle LaPorte

Written by Danielle LaPorte

Opinionated introvert often mistaken for an extrovert. I write about stuff I find in the cosmos…mostly Love. Author of The Desire Map, White Hot Truth + FSS.

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